Sarah Shahi and Steve Howey’s biggest disagreements, dating revelations in new book

Sara Shahi‘s new book tells the story of her relationship with Steve HowieRelationship with current-ex Adam Demos and more dating stories designed to provide readers with advice they can utilize in their own lives.

Life is Life: Exploring Life’s Chaotic Middle from A to Zpublished on Tuesday, January 27, A closer look at Shashi’s decision to file for divorce Howey’s reflections after playing a dissatisfied housewife in the hit Netflix series sex/life.

“As fate would have it, I was going through my own personal transformation when I was filming Sex/Life. I had been married for almost twelve years, together for almost twenty, but my relationship was plagued by other issues besides a fantasy man from the past,” she said of her off-screen love life. “Years of frustration at living far from my full potential had finally reached a crescendo. I was tired, bloated, and uninspired. My only ‘self-care’ ritual was to take ten minutes of food out of my teeth every night.”

Shahi, 46, and Howie, 48, Met on set Rebadated for a few years before getting married in 2009. They were together for more than a decade and had three children until Shahi filed for divorce in 2020.

“It’s good for both sides. There’s no failure here,” Shahi exclusively shared in her January article. US Weekly Cover story. “I’ve been in a relationship for 18 years and have three beautiful children. It’s been an absolute success for me and we have a wonderful relationship – Steve and I – and are now co-parents. It seems to me important to show kids that you have to have the courage to let things go when things don’t sync.”

Shashi then found love with her sex/life Co-star presentation. After five years of dating, Shashi breaks silence us Of their breakup, she said: “People really felt like there was an element of the relationship that belonged to them and was very sweet and warm.”

She continued: “The flip side of it is that when it’s over, you feel like you’ve been through it twice. You’re going through it emotionally on a personal level, and then you’re going through it again on a larger level.”

although life full of energy Shashi’s divorce from Howie was mentioned several times, but there was no obvious mention of Demers. Shahi’s personal life, professional challenges and childhood trauma are mentioned to inspire others to make changes to benefit themselves.

life full of energy Available now. Read on for some of the biggest takeaways:

Sarah recalls telling Steve their marriage was over

Telling everyoneSarah Shahi said she struggled for a while and finally ended her marriage, writing, “I finally love myself more.” It took her ten years to say those five words. My voice kept shaking. “I do love you,” I repeated, “but I finally love myself more.”

She continued: “I was in tears and had just told my husband of eleven years that I wanted a divorce. I wanted to leave the life we ​​had shared for eighteen years, with three healthy children and a cute little rescue dog, and live on my own. I hadn’t lived on my own since I was twenty-two. I’m forty now. My breasts aren’t that perky anymore. That’s courage.”

Signs Sarah Noticed Before a Breakup

Sarah Shahi recalls her routine at home that makes her feel calm. Addressing other women who may be going through similar experiences, Shahi said she would go through many “annoying” days where her focus was on feeding her children and supporting her husband’s difficult days, which resulted in “comfort” which required “more damn work than the kids”.

“I can’t make service calls from friends to kids to partners to pets,” she points out. “‘Yes, we can play together after school. Sure, we can have sushi for dinner. I’ll be happy to clean the kitchen. Oh, and I’ll be happy to give you a blowjob while the kids are down!'”

The problems Sarah faces when dating again

The day Sarah Shahi had a difficult conversation with ex-husband Steve Howey happened to be the day the United States went into lockdown due to the coronavirus pandemic. This resulted in another blow to Shashi’s personal life as she recalled not being able to “go out and touch every cute guy.”

Sarah talks about Steve’s reaction to divorce

Sara Shahi Call her divorce a breakup It left her with a “PhD in pain,” she added, “While it was truly the best thing for everyone involved, seeing his wet signature on the final divorce papers was like a piano falling on my heart.”

What Sarah got from Warner Bros. execs about dating apps

When Sarah Shahi was swiping on a dating app, she was contacted by a Warner Bros. executive who texted her, “Wanna play with my asshole later?”

Sarah’s respective blowjob and orgasm chapters

life full of energy Used by Sarah Shahi Life experience as blueprint For other women, the actress devotes a chapter to the b*** j*** techniques she learned when she moved to Los Angeles in the early 2000s. Shahi credited the two-day seminar with helping her gain confidence in sex, which she then performed on her then-boyfriend, who was “a desirable decade older than her and a critically acclaimed (in his mind) B+ movie star.”

Shahi also dedicated a chapter to the importance of orgasm, writing, “The thing that hit me the most after the premiere of Sex/Life was how many women have never experienced an orgasm. Research shows that as many as half of women are unhappy with how often they achieve their physical needs. … After years of extensive personal research (you’re welcome), I realized that embracing your sexuality is like unlocking a cheat code to your best self.”

Sarah mentioned her ex-boyfriend

Before moving to Los Angeles, Sarah Shahi dated an unknown boyfriend in college with whom she then cheated. She recalled becoming a “part-time bulimic” and “drinking too much” out of guilt. That period in Shashi’s life prevented her from ever cheating in a relationship again.

She also mentioned an ex she had before she met Howie.

“Early in my career, I had a boyfriend who was a little more mature than me and said, ‘You’re not that good, you’re not that smart, and it’s my job to bring you down,'” she recalled. “After I won the acting award, the prince charming also congratulated me and said, ‘What? You think you’re great just because you can cry on cue? Guess again!'”

letter to her ex

life full of energy It includes a letter from Sarah Shahi to Mr. Situation, which she calls a “master class in self-love.” It also mentions “Mr. Vino,” which reads: “You taught me the art of timing—not in a romantic way, but in the way of when to say something and what not to blow up. I learned that honesty doesn’t have to be a wrecking ball if you use it carefully. But you never bothered with that—you preferred to throw your words like punches after your third closest drink.”

She continued: “You’re too in love with your liquid muse to notice, but I’m too busy being a person who can stand on my own without a bottle. … You can only meet me where you are, and that’s somewhere deep in the bottom of the glass.”